Sex, love and marriage

People are really concerned about the relationship between sex, love and marriage. I have been able to test in my uncountable bar talks how difficult is to balance them in our daily life, especially if you waste your time in pubs! Understanding the relationship of these three is as difficult as understanding that the pigeon, the son and the father are the same thing at the same time. But don’t panic. I’ll try to give you an explanation to this profound mystery.

Sex is what you love best, isn't it? Especially if you, dear reader, are a man. But that is something you can't admit, at least in public. On the other hand, looking for sex only brings a lot of problems (money, health, pregnancy, among others). To avoid these problems, love was invented. Love is more convenient. So, when you see a beautiful blonde down the street,  instead of saying something like “you're such a babe, I wanna f … you” (translation:  you surely want to have sex with me tonight, don't you?), you say, “I would like to found a beautiful relationship with you based on love and respect”. You know what you mean; it doesn't matter if she doesn't.

Love is the second thing you like most, unless you, dear reader, are a woman in which case it would be the first. There are a lot of theories about love, and it's likely that all of them are true. I like the one that says lovers are like twin souls, even if some couples look more like Stan Laurel and Oliver Hardy. Well, let's leave theory and go to practice. I strongly recommend falling in love with someone before having sex with them. Love is an aphrodisiac for sex. It really works: it slims the fat ones, makes the smallest things bigger, transforms the noise from her or his mouth into music for your ears, and so on.  The only thing is that it often disappears after the first use. It is also said that love is blind, but if love is blind, why is lingerie so popular? In any case, if its effects last for more than two weeks, you are in danger of thinking seriously about marriage.

Marriage is the third thing you like most, especially if you are a man. If you are a woman you probably hesitate over whether it is the first or the second, but never the last. Anyway, marriage is what our parents linked necessarily to love. And it is well-known that  parents  always are right. As Frank Sinatra says, “love and marriage, love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage … You can't have one without the other”. There are a lot of theories about marriage, and they are probably all true. Sinatra's theory has turned out to be true most of the time. I could prove that with my own experience, but I'd rather not talk about me.

Well, we have sex, love and marriage. But how we can combine and balance these three? A friend of mine once said to me that he had the formula: he and his wife have sex almost every day; that is, almost Monday, almost Tuesday, almost Wednesday... That isn't what I mean when I say combine and balance.

If you want to have sex (frequent, cheap, safe and healthy), you need a partner. To get a partner you need love.  As you know, a partner is the person who is with you for love. If you have a partner, you have without any doubt a marriage, a relationship, a … whatever you want to call it. This is the way sex drives you to marriage in the carriage of love.

Finally, I would like to give you some advice that summarizes all I have said so far. As Crosby, Stills and Nash sing, “... if you can't be with the one you love, honey, love the one you're with”. By following this simple and wise advice you can unify sex, love and marriage. Nevertheless, and this is my last counsel, don't try to understand completely the way they become three-in-one. It is as difficult as the mystery of Holy Trinity. So just play with them and be happy. 

Bart Ptolomy